Low Self-Esteem Causes Stress in At Risk Teens

ARISE Blog: Low Self-Esteem Causes Stress in At-Risk Teens

Low self-esteem in at-risk teens can be a major source of stress because it affects how they see themselves, how they handle challenges, and how they interact with others. When a teen already faces tough circumstances (like family instability, trauma, or poverty), low self-esteem makes it even harder to cope — and here's how that builds stress:

1. Negative Self-Talk = Constant Mental Pressure

At-risk teens with low self-esteem often tell themselves:

  • "I'm not good enough."
  • "No one cares about me."
  • "I always mess things up."

This internal dialogue creates a constant feeling of failure and fear, which leads to anxiety and emotional exhaustion.

2. Fear of Judgment

Low self-esteem makes teens overly concerned about what others think. They might:

  • Avoid speaking up in a group or social situations
  • Constantly comparing themselves to others
  • Worry about being embarrassed or rejected

This fear keeps them in a state of social stress and insecurity, especially if they’ve already experienced bullying or trauma.

3. Avoidance & Isolation

Teens with low self-esteem may pull away from:

  • Schoolwork (because they feel they’ll fail anyway)
  • Friendships (because they feel they’re not worth liking)
  • Opportunities (because they feel they’ll mess up)

But isolation increases stress — they feel more alone, unsupported, and misunderstood.

4. Unhealthy Coping

With no confidence and no belief that they matter, some teens turn to:

  • Aggression or acting out
  • Self-harm or risky behavior
  • Drugs or alcohol to numb their feelings

These behaviors might temporarily mask the pain, but they increase stress in the long run — and often worsen the situations they’re already in.

5. Blocked Potential

Low self-esteem makes at-risk teens feel like their future isn’t worth dreaming about. This leads to:

  • Hopelessness
  • Lack of motivation
  • Anxiety about what's next

When a teen feels they’ll never succeed, the pressure of just surviving becomes overwhelming.

If you want to know how to boost self-esteem in at-risk teens view the ARISE Four Wheel Drive Self-Esteem curriculum